Out of the blue, I spoke to a friend of mine and vented my situation with hopes that she would agree with me. She did in fact understand my situation, but gave me a new perspective of how to look at the situation. She told me, that in a sermon she heard, the pastor explained that we “must give forgiveness to followers of Jesus and we should pray for everyone else to know Jesus as we do.” It was like a lightning bolt went off in my head telling me that you are searching for the wrong end game. I was missing the point all along. I felt flabbergasted as she spoke, like when you look around for your glasses or keys and they are on your head or in your hand. I was praying for a solution to a problem for myself, but I was not seeing the situation clearly. I should be praying that this person finds and see Jesus on an intimate level for it is only then that change of heart can occur. Fighting with non-believers is like playing a game of tag, someone is always “it.” We argue because we see the world differently and our paths are just not the same. Remember when your eyes were opened to GOD’s greatness, power and love for the first time and how you felt. Your rose-colored glasses came off and your heart exploded with the, “why doesn’t everyone see this?!” question. The solutions to any situation relies in GOD’s love and HIS word. If the person you are arguing with does not see this, then you might as well be on different playing fields because you will never come to a conclusion. Instead, we need to let the bitterness leave our heart and pray fervently that they see Christ as their savior as we do. It is then that forgiveness and closure can occur within our friendship on a lasting level.
I am a child of the Lord Our God, the Creator of the Universe, and he does not want me to suffer as I would not want someone to emotionally hurt my own child. The scripture teaches us to forgive 7 times 70, for those in Christ. For those who do not know the Lord as their own personal saving grace, we need to pray that this occurs first. Our human nature makes us want to fix the problem, but God has a way of revealing what the problem is. In most regards, like in my case, I ask for what I selfishly want, not what that person needs. The solution has nothing to with a conversation that ends well, because I’m still going to have the same issue with this person later. The solution has to do with praying that they will grow close to the LORD and as such their hearts will be changed, so in turn we will be able to communicate better. The solution is always Jesus and sometimes we just miss the point all together.